Relationships can start out fun and effortless. Things are more exciting and you're learning about each other but long-term relationships require a little more effort and patience. In order to have a working relationship you need to understand your partner's needs and you need to understand what that person wants out of life. If your partner is going to be happy you need to be able to compromise and support them. Appreciating your partner can go a long way, a simple thank you can mean all the difference. Try and be involved with what your partner is interested in. If they're interested and surfing make the extra effort to go to the beach with them or if your partner is interested in shopping maybe just walking around in the mall with them will be satisfactory. Being interested in your lovers interest should not be a chore. Remember to say sorry when you're in the wrong. Apologizing when your partner is hurt by your actions is very important. Also remember not to hold a grudge because holding a grudge is doing nothing but hurting you. Apologize when you're wrong and accept sorry when that is presented as well.